Top Ten Tips to Loving Yourself
It is never selfish to love yourself
To be completely healthy in mind, body and spirit, one must first of all love oneself. Yet that is probably the hardest thing any of us ever has to do. It is easy to set everyone else’s needs above our own but if you want to give your very best to them, you need to be the very best yourself.
Below is my top 10 list of tips to help you make the journey towards loving yourself. I know, I know, _ I can already feel you cringe away, making excuses and issuing denials – all perfectly natural - but not helpful. At the very least have a read of the list, then take the bull by the horns and take each one into your self care plan.
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- 1 STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticise yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Everyone changes – every single day. When you criticise yourself your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself your changes are positive.
- 2 DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorising yourself with your thoughts. It’s a depressing way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure and immediately switch your scary thoughts to pleasant thoughts.
- 3 BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind and patient. You are learning a new skill – you won’t get everything right every single time but there is no need to knock yourself over the head every time you falter – that is setting you up for FAILURE – there is no such thing. Treat yourself as you would someone you love very much and are helping to learn like a child learning to walk.
- 4 BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating you own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having thoughts – gently change them.
- 5 PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism of any kind breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. give yourself credit for all the good you are – tell yourself how well you are doing even in the little things and really celebrate the big ones.
- 6 SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is actually being strong to ask for help when you need it. Find ways for self nourishing.
- 7 BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you create negatives to fulfil a need. Now you are finding new positive ways to fulfil the same needs. Lovingly release the old negative patterns.
- 8 TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about yourself – what your needs are and how you can meet them. Make it a joy not a chore. Cherish and revere the temple you live in and it will reward you with joy.
- 9 MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking in the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking in the mirror, Forgive them too. At lease once a day say ‘I love you, I really love you’ to yourself looking directly into your eyes.
- 10 LOVE YOURSELF…DO IT NOW!
Don’t wait until you get well or lose weight or get a new job or relationship. Begin now and do the very best you can.